Coping with Loss: Kim on Who Does She Think She Is?

I saw the movie with Kathleen (what a treat!) and also have a ton to say (you can see my surface review @ http://www.parentingforpeace.blogspot.com, but I think it is a film with layers I’ll keep peeling for a while). But Kathleen’s post has me thinking about choice — it is true that we choose a lot, but it is also true that mothering teaches us something about coping with loss, loss of choices, loss of people we love, the loss of parts of our lives we imagined. I wonder if those marriages would have lasted, I wonder what the goals really are, I wonder how much people truly can live in the moment, or enjoy the process, or create because they have to. I wonder how we can broaden our sense of good mothering to include non custodial or super ambitious or crazy distracted women, while also insisting on public policy that genuinely values care giving and the kind of time with children that children seek. So many questions… I’m glad that our generation is raising them, and glad to have such fascinating, smart, creative friends to ponder with!

This piece originally appeared as a post on Oh, Please: Who Does She Think She Is?